1. The act or process of beginning to use something new or different
2. the act or process of giving official acceptance or approval to something
The origin of the word adopt is from the Latin word adoptare, (ad- + optare) which means to choose.
My husband and I have chosen to pursue adoption. Adoption was and has always been part of our path for creating a family. We just always thought our adopted child or children would be brought in to our family after we had our biological children. I’ve never looked at it as an alternative or last resort option. We get to choose to adopt. We didn’t get to choose infertility.
With us moving forward with adoption, we will continue to try for biological children as well, but this is the path we are on at this current moment.
As much as we are choosing to adopt I can not shake the feeling that I am buying a baby. The amount of money we are shelling out to take over parental rights from another human being feels a bit unsettling. Maybe this is a standard feeling amongst those new to the process but it is where I am at mentally. I wish I could feel like I was doing something good or noble. That’s what the word adoption denotes to me. Instead, I feel like I am fortunate enough to have enough cash to go out to the baby market and select what age, ethnicity and background I want to bring in my home to love.
Perhaps it was just the lengthy list of home study paperwork and tasks which we just completed.
A 7 page BIOGRAPHY on each of us. (It required us to write about our families, childhood, parenting philosophy, education, relationship history, etc. etc. etc.) LOCAL CRIMINAL RECORD CHECK
HEALTH STATEMENTS FROM A PHYSICIAN (personal fave) we had to get a physical enclosed forms for additional household members as needed.
FIVE (5) REFERENCE LETTERS (only two could be from relatives the other three must be non-relatives)
STATE/FEDERAL FINGERPRINT CHECK
CENTRAL ABUSE HOTLINE RECORD SEARCH* & RELEASE OF INFORMATION
AFFIDAVIT OF GOOD MORAL CHARACTER (which required us to take to a notary).
ADOPTION DISCLOSURE (more forms and signatures)
AUTHORIZATION FOR RELEASE OF INFORMATION (more forms and signatures)
CONTACT & IDENTIFYING INFORMATION (copies of driver licenses, etc. etc.)
FIREARM SAFETY ACKNOWLEDGEMENT (a had to say we had no firearms in the home)
INCOME TAX RETURN – provided a copy of the first two pages only of our latest income tax
INSURANCE VERIFICATION – provided a photo copy of the health insurance card (front and
back) that will begin covering your child at placement.
EMPLOYMENT VERIFICATION submitted paperwork to our tax accountant saying we can afford to buy the baby 😉
FAMILY MONTHLY BUDGET OUTLINED
I wish that all mother’s and father’s (adoptive and biological) had to get their backgrounds crawled through with a fine tooth comb in order to have a child. Regardless of paperwork we are thrilled and excited to be moving in this direction. Maybe, just maybe, it will still be the year of the baby for us. 🙂